A few days ago, you learned about Rachel and Jacob and their inspiring story about love, devotion, selflessness and organ transplant. I wrote about “love being hard work” but “when it’s right, it’s not that hard.”
To some, that may have been an oversimplification of matters of the heart – and they are right. Love is nuanced, often complicated. Sometimes it can feel right, but not really be right. But most of all, it takes two folks – it can’t be one-sided. Those relationships almost always involve a certain amount of denial, fear and ultimately disaster.
And sometimes, if you love someone, you have to know when to say goodbye. You have to stop being in denial of what’s in front of you. You have to come to terms with – and accept – the fact that no matter how hard you’ve tried, no matter how hard your special person has tried, no matter how good it once seemed to be, your relationship is not going to work. Sometimes you have to accept the fact that no matter how devoted you are to someone, he or she may not share that same commitment. There’s a big part of you that will always feel unfulfilled – and unrequited.
Mocha Mr. Clean has never really been afraid to walk the lonely road. (Let’s face it: Some folks really can’t stand being alone.) But anyone who tells you they actually like being alone … well, they’re just not being upfront with The Dirty Truth.
Because I feel like it … and it’s an underrated Springsteen song: