Mocha Mr. Clean's The Dirty Truth

February 28, 2010

But Sometimes Love Isn’t Enough …

Filed under: Uncategorized — mochamrclean @ 6:43 pm

A few days ago, you learned about Rachel and Jacob and their inspiring story about love, devotion, selflessness and organ transplant. I wrote about  “love being hard work” but “when it’s right, it’s not that hard.”

To some, that may have been an oversimplification of matters of the heart – and they are right. Love is nuanced, often complicated. Sometimes it can feel right, but not really be right. But most of all, it takes two folks – it can’t be one-sided. Those relationships almost always involve a certain amount of denial, fear and ultimately disaster.

And sometimes, if you love someone, you have to know when to say goodbye. You have to stop being in denial of what’s in front of you. You have to come to terms with – and accept – the fact that no matter how hard you’ve tried, no matter how hard your special person has tried, no matter how good it once seemed to be, your relationship is not going to work. Sometimes you have to accept the fact that no matter how devoted you are to someone, he or she may not share that same commitment. There’s a big part of you that will always feel unfulfilled – and unrequited.

Mocha Mr. Clean has never really been afraid to walk the lonely road. (Let’s face it: Some folks really can’t stand being alone.) But anyone who tells you they actually like being alone … well, they’re just not being upfront with The Dirty Truth.



Because I feel like it … and it’s an underrated Springsteen song:


February 24, 2010

Grown-up Talk vs. Kids’ Play

Filed under: Current Events,Politics — mochamrclean @ 10:11 pm

If you want an illustration of the difference between children and adults, here’s one.

This is what children do:

This is what adults do:

Now, does President Obama tend to rely too much on the teleprompter. Perhaps. But Sarah Palin sure made a strong case a few weeks ago in favor the teleprompter.

Could you imagine what all the right-wing blogs and Fox News Channel would have been saying if Obama had scribbled notes on his hand? I mean, we’d be hearing jokes about a childish, socialist, communist, weak-on-terror, wussy president for 8 years – even if Obama turned out to be a one-termer.

But when Sarah does it, those righties say that proves she’s “down to earth.” “Folksy.” “Can adjust on the fly.” “Resourceful.” Yeah, okay. You go ahead and keep telling yourself that.

C’mon, at least Sarah could have used index cards. (Check STAPLES – they still make them. Honest.) To think, a part of me once thought she was a viable threat to Obama. Still, Sarah’s folks love her and will say and accept almost anything, as long as it’s not pro-Obama – and that’s perhaps one of the things that should keep our president up at nights.

Is all this petty? Yes, it is. Unfortunately, that’s what politics is all about these days and all sides are guilty of it. And until both sides stop washing their hands of responsibility, our country is going to continue to be in the mess it’s mired in – and that’s The Dirty Truth.


February 23, 2010

You’re All I Need to Get By

Filed under: Uncategorized — mochamrclean @ 10:42 pm

Rachel and Jacob are two friends of mine and you don’t see too many couples like them these days. (And in the interest of full disclosure, I am not using real names here.)

Rachel and Jacob, both in their late thirties, have been married for 15 years, but they have been together since high school. They were high school sweethearts and they have seen each other through love at first sight, proms, graduations, marriage, medical school and two beautiful boys. Both of them are doctors – you could say they’re like a real-life version of the Huxtables, only with a Latin flavor. The greatest thing about these two folks is that not only are they successful, but they’re quality people – they have seen each other through the thickest and the thinnest.

Right now, they are going through a thin phase. Jacob needed a new kidney. Who was the donor? The love of his life, Rachel. Time will tell whether Jacob’s body accepts Rachel’s kidney, but the love between these two – the commitment, selflessness – is overwhelming inspiring and amazing.

So often these days, you hear about folks not being able to make it work – not being able to stay together. Divorce has seemingly been the norm for a long, long time – it’s nice to see youngish folks who love each other that much and are that committed to each other. (These days, most long-term couples are folks who keep their teeth in a clear glass and well into their retirement.)

Love is hard work, but when it’s right, it’s not that hard. It can be both the kind of fever that fuels a passionate kiss or renders us sick with heartbreak. It can fit like a glove, protect us, make us feel warm, snug, taken care of  .. fulfilled. And when it’s right, the love with that special person is all you will need to get by.

Here’s to Rachel and Jacob and hopefully a speedy recovery to them both. They’re two of the finest people I know … and that’s The Dirty Truth.


Reintroducing … ‘The Dirty Truth’

Filed under: Uncategorized — mochamrclean @ 10:02 pm

Greetings True Believers, dreamers, skeptics, romantics and everyone in between and welcome to Mocha Mr. Clean’s The Dirty Truth. I’m the MMC himself.

It’s been a long time since we last met – more than 18 months. I got struck by a very long case of writer’s block. And with writer’s block came a lack of energy and inspiration – a lethal combo for any writer.

But now, I’m back and feeling the hunger again. The beautiful thing about The Dirty Truth is that it will not be about just one thing. One day, you can see musings on politics (Isn’t everybody a pundit these days?); the next you’ll see commentary on pro wrestling and comic books; another day you’ll see the world as I, the MMC, may see it. I don’t promise that you’ll like or agree with everything that is written here. I don’t promise to be witty and entertaining all the time. But I do thank you if you take the time to read.

So sit back, relax and get ready … it’s time for the return of The Dirty Truth!


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